What to Look for in a Baby Mattress

Children are quite sensitive and often startled in their sleep. For your baby to have a good night’s sleep, not to wake up in the middle of the night, a soft, comfortable, and suitable soft crib mattress will be essential. Therefore, parents must research carefully before choosing the best affordable crib mattress. So, what are the tips to help parents choose the best mattress for their children? Let’s find out in the article below!What to Look for in a Baby Mattress

Having a baby mattress helps reduce the risk of sudden death in infants

In the first years of life, the vitality of newborns is very immature and needs special attention and care. Ru9 has received many questions from customers about choosing an infant mattress. And one of the two outstanding issues that many parents are most interested in is:

# 1 Should babies be put on a mattress?

For around the first 6 months, babies should stay in a cot to ensure their safety. From the 6th month onwards, you can put your baby on a separate mattress. Many families still maintain the traditional lifestyle of keeping children lying on a mat or a hardwood floor surface. This has inadvertently caused damage to the child’s backbone system. That is not to mention the case of children being “licked” – children lose a lot of hair after the rotation of the head constantly creating friction with hard surfaces. You know, the child’s backbone is very soft and weak. Therefore, even if the family chooses to buy hardwood or a separate mattress for children, it is necessary to choose a good mattress to cherish and care for the child’s body. A good mattress will help children sleep more comfortably and deeply.

# 2 Should babies share a bed with parents?

In the world today, many organizations carry out many studies on risks of “Parents sharing beds with children”. Newborns are at high risk of dying from sleep-related accidents such as heat, being stuck in the mattress, being pinched, etc. leading to apnea.

Therefore, experts recommend that families should choose to buy separate hardwood beds to keep children safe. However, the price of hardwood is not cheap and must be discarded after the child has grown up. These single mattress lines are both spacious for children to play on and can be used until the age of 15. This is considered a smart spending trend in modern times.What to Look for in a Baby Mattress

The causes of startled baby awakening during the night

The startled awakening during the night causes your baby’s sleep to be incomplete and interrupted, which can even lead to insomnia or staying up all night. Meanwhile, staying awake at night is one of the causes of developmental delays in children. Therefore, parents need to limit the waking frequency of the child in the night. To do this, you must understand the reasons behind the babies’ startled sleeping patterns. The reasons are as follows:

  • Most children wake up at night because their body feels uncomfortable during sleep. Ignoring health conditions such as being sick or teething, the reason from the external environment may be due to the sleeping position, uncomfortable sleeping mattress or maybe due to the surrounding noise
  • Looking more specifically at the environmental conditions of sleep, one of the reasons for the impact may be the surface of the mattress, sheets, blankets are too hard or some components irritate the baby’s skin.
  • Another objective reason is that you give your baby too much sleep during the day. At night, the child is not sleepy, leading to waking up and crying.

Tips when buying a baby mattress for a good night’s sleep

The baby’s body is very fragile, so it should always be protected, even during sleep. When buying a baby mattress, parents need to understand what their child needs for sleep. Parents may note the following:

Choose a soft mattress for children

The Baby’s body is much more sensitive than adults. Lying on a rough mattress will make your baby uncomfortable. This leads to the baby often waking up, fussing, and crying at night. Therefore, the mattress needed for a baby is a soft mattress with a certain level of softness.

Children are often in their developmental stage, so the mattress also needs proper stiffness. If the mattress is too soft, the baby’s body will not be well supported, affecting bone development.What to Look for in a Baby Mattress

Choose a mattress of ideal thickness and elasticity

Many families prefer to choose thin mattresses to limit the baby-falls from the mattress. However, this is completely wrong. Mattresses that are too thin will lack skeletal muscle support. As a result, the forces acting on the child’s body will not be limited, making the child vulnerable to pain and crying. Therefore, you should choose a thick mattress that is soft, elastic, and able to fully support the body’s movements. The ideal height of the mattress thickness is from 15cm to 25cm. In addition to and to no longer worry about your child falling out of bed, you can use the barriers around the bed to limit the play space of your child.

The mattress must be well ventilated

When buying a baby mattress, you also need to pay attention to ventilation. Babies always have hotter body temperatures than adults, therefore sweating and lying in a hotbed makes them feel uncomfortably hot. Therefore, you need to buy mattresses with high ventilation, to help your baby feel cool and comfortable when sleeping.

Mattress safety for health

The Baby’s skin is also very sensitive. Therefore, parents need to choose a mattress for babies with safe materials for health. This avoids having your baby have allergies or other health-related problems.

Mattress size for children

There are many sad cases where newborns have suddenly died during sleep, especially when sleeping with their parents and relatives and there are many reasons given for this including heat or being trampled on, etc. Therefore, experts recommend that families should consider choosing separate mattresses for their children. One suggestion is to buy a mattress size of 1m2x2m to make a separate sleeping space for children. With this size of the cushion, children will be able to lie on the cushion until they are 15 years old. Having a separate bed helps children learn to be independent, it also protects their safety. Besides, if families want to let their children lie with other family members, they should choose a size of 1m8 mattress. This spacious mattress size will be suitable for 2 adults and 1 small child.

How to Safely Carry a Baby

When you let your kids hang out, you can’t hold them forever. At this time, you can think of a baby carrier. However, you need to learn how to use your sling properly.

Babies are often very weak, so in addition to paying attention to their children’s health, parents also need to know how to take care of their babies properly, to avoid unfortunate cases. A baby carrier is a useful option for mothers who want to look after, be close to their babies, and save time and effort. So how do you safely and safely carry your baby? Please refer to use refer to the following useful information to know how to safely and safely carry a baby!

Benefits of baby carrier

  • Support breastfeeding: When you are close to your baby, you will easily recognize that your baby is hungry and nursing without having to wait for the baby to cry. The awareness of the needs of the baby will help parents take care of the baby better
  •  Babies cry less: According to research, babies who are slammed by parents are less likely to fuss and cry than other babies
  • Can help avoid spine and skull deformities: Babies who often have to sit in a stroller or bassinet are at high risk of deformity of the skull or spine. Properly holding a baby helps to develop the baby’s skull, spine, and muscles naturally.

Types of carriers for newborn babies

A hammock is a baby sling

A hammock is a piece of cloth that is wrapped around your head and worn over one shoulder. This type of sling is ideal for babies because the size of the cloth will fit your baby’s weight. Toddlers should also use this type of sling in a sitting position. There are many different types of cloth carriers, with or without padding, with or without loops for easy adjustment.

A baby carrier is the most convenient option

A cloth sling is a long piece of cloth that wraps around your body and both shoulders. This type of carrier is very flexible and least expensive.

Baby carrier with a soft sling seat

This type of carrier is made of soft cushioning material but is sewn into a chair with two shoulder straps and a buckle. The carrier is ideal for outdoor activities and other occasions when you carry your baby for a long time.

Among the carriers, a hammock and a carrier are ideal for newborns.

Note on the safe and proper use of the baby carrier

Here are some general guidelines for using a baby carrier to make sure your baby is safe:

Keep baby breathing

For babies, if a baby carrier is used, you should use a soft carrier and always supervise your baby carefully to avoid the risk of choking if the chin, babyface on your chest. Make sure your baby’s nose is not hindered by your body or the carrier. The baby’s nose should be cleaned and kept from touching your baby’s chin, at least two fingers apart. When your baby has control of his or her head and neck, put your baby’s head in one direction, cheeks on your chest while you sling in the position opposite to you to avoid choking your baby.

Prevent baby from sliding out

It is very dangerous for a baby to fall from a height across your chest. In addition to using a carrier that supports the baby’s head and neck, you should always watch carefully when carrying your baby while moving. If you need to pick something up, lower your knees instead of lowering your hips, so your baby will be kept upright.

Hold your baby with one or both hands

If you are new to the baby carrier or have just started using a new carrier type, take the time to learn how to use it properly to ensure that your baby is held securely on both sides safely. safe. You should hold your baby with one or both hands until you get used to carrying your baby and make sure all the locks and ties are secure. Over time, when you feel comfortable holding your baby, you may not need to use your hands to hold it.

Head and neck support

For babies, the neck is so weak that they cannot hold their head, so parents should support this part of the baby properly. Parents should carry a baby when they are at least 4 months old. In particular, a baby carrier on the back will not be recommended until the baby is a little older, at least 6 months old.

Protect the newborn’s hips

The newborn’s hips will grow stronger in the first 4 months of life. Therefore, babies need special care. Parents should keep the baby out of the carrier regularly so that their hips, knees, and the rest of their bodies are allowed to move freely.

In addition to the above notes, you should keep the following in mind:

  • Except when breastfeeding and when the baby is a carrier, the mother should put the baby upright
  • Always check the baby carrier regularly to see if it is worn or damaged. Also, check all the locks and buttons to see if they are securely fastened
  • Your baby’s knees must be higher than the bottom and legs stretched out to allow the spine and hips to grow well
  • Do not carry your baby in a forward-facing position (sling forward) because their legs are suspended and may lead to hip dysplasia.
  • Do not drive or cycle while carrying a baby
  • Never drink liquid or hot drinks like coffee or tea when carrying your baby.

How to choose a baby carrier

Consider and answer the following questions to find the right carrier for your baby :

  • When using a sling, do you and your baby feel comfortable?
  • Does it support the natural development of your baby’s spine and hips?
  • Can you put the baby in a sling yourself?
  • Can the baby be breastfed in a carrier?
  • How long will the baby sling fit?
  • Can it be used for babies?
  • Does increase the baby’s skin surface contact.

With lots of useful information and safe and proper carrier tips. I hope to be of great help to mothers in finding the right and safe carrier for their babies.

Self-Care Mondays #12: Make a Self-Care Plan

One of the most important tenets of self-care for me is that self-care is a prevention tool. This means that engaging in self-care practices can prevent stress, becoming overwhelmed, having emotional breakdowns, coming into negative head space, or disillusionment. The most important thing however, is that self-care is used in a way to prevent first, then treat. This means that self-care is engaged in a routine and daily fashion not just relied upon when stress takes over. So engage in creating your own self-care plan in order to make sure you’re maintaining emotional health instead of just remedying it when it starts to falter. Here are some tips:Self-Care Mondays #12 Make a Self-Care Plan

  1. Creating a self-care plan can be done in the way that best suits your personality. If you’re a little type A and need some structure to your day make sure you write in (WITH PEN) your daily self-care practices or rituals. If you’re more type-B don’t worry about having a set plan for each day but pay attention to the rhythm and flow and stay mindful of the best times to utilize for self-care. Either way make a commitment to at least a 10-15 minute self-care ritual each day. You may have to test and trial times and spaces that work for you based on your schedule. You may think that you’ll wake up an hour early each day and then keep hitting the snooze button- then its time to change what time is best for your self-care ritual.
  2. Each morning  take some time to think mindfully about which practice would most benefit you during your self-care time. This is important because we can easily fall into doing something that is mindless or not as impactful during self-care time. “Me time” is different than “self-care time.” Self-care time is mindful and focused on doing something to enhance your emotional and/or physical wellbeing. “Me time” is giving in to whatever desires you have for yourself and maybe even indulging- there is nothing wrong with this. However, self-care time is more planful and intentional and a NECESSITY, not a luxury. I have watched so many nap times come and go where I didn’t feel any more nurtured or rested because I sat in front of the TV or on the internet for 2 hours and that wasn’t refreshing for me. That “me time” wasn’t working for me so I had to devote the first half hour to mindful self-care and then I could turn on the tube.
  3. Keep a list of self-care practices readily available. Sometimes it can be daunting to even sit down and think about what we want to do for ourselves. Having a list of self-care rituals at hand can be helpful to select what is best for ourselves that day. Breaking self-care rituals into different categories that address our needs can also be helpful. Feeling a little in need of more social time? Have a list of self-care rituals that help address loneliness or disconnection such as writing an email to an old friend, scheduling a coffee date with another mom, or Skyping with your cousin who lives overseas.

Here are some examples of self-care rituals from various aspects of human need. You can ask yourself what area you feel you have the most need in and select a practice from that category.

Spiritual– Read from a religious text or spiritual book, pray, reflect, or meditate, journal, educate yourself on a spiritual subject you’ve wanted to learn more about

 Emotional– write in a gratitude journal, write a letter to yourself talking about your strengths, open up and ask for support from a friend, engage in healthy coping skills, read a self-help book, journal, engage in some form of creative expression through writing, art, dance, or music

Physical- exercise, yoga, sensory rituals that heal such as hot baths, aromatherapy, schedule a massage

 Social – write an email to an old friend, go a new group or social event and meet new people, engage in an online support group, schedule time out with friends, schedule a date night or private time with your partner, call a friend or family member just to catch up

Intellectual– read the news, read a book, engage in a hobby or start a new hobby, make a list of goals, join a group based on your interests

Take 5 minutes today or tomorrow to engage in making a self-care plan and stick to it no matter what. Making this a daily ritual can have an amazing impact on maintaining good emotional health.

The Other Side

I was in a dark place this last week.

It was dark outside. It was dark inside my mind. I was not me.

I allowed myself to stay in this dark place for quite awhile. I allowed the sleep deprivation to keep me under water. Instead of fighting to thrive I just decided to survive.

Some days as moms we talk about how it is just about getting through the day. But when that becomes every day for a period of time it starts to feel like a dark place. You don’t want to just survive. You want to live, to experience happiness, accomplishment, connection, and fulfilment.

And then this morning I took a brief walk. It was just 5 minutes around my city block while I listened to music but the air felt fresher, my eyes stayed forward instead of looking down, there was a bounce in my step. And it hit me- I had reached the other side.

It’s hard to remember when we are in our dark place that the other side exists. That is is waiting for us. Sometimes it’s up to us to get there and sometimes life circumstances brings it to us. But it is there. Sometimes it gets hard, really hard to find it or wait for it to come. But it’s always out there somewhere.

It’s the place where our best self exists. It’s the place where we feel more whole. The sun shines in our mind. We see all that is before us and are grateful. We see a beautiful self in the mirror and not the monster that was there before.

I write to remember this moment, that refreshing moment of entering the other side. I write so that I remember that it exists if I leave it and am in a dark place again.

I will not get this past week back. I can not take away my mistakes. I can not erase the irritability, the coldness that I spread to my son because he was the only one there to take it. It hurts when I think about it. But its something else I need to remember. I am capable of allowing myself to be less than I am when I’m in dark place. I must be gentle with myself and then others, I must assert my needs, I must ask for help.

So I’ll hopefully be on the other side for awhile. The dark side will start to slowly pull me back. My self-awareness is my best weapon. My belief that I am worthy of always being on this side can help keep me here longer. And if I do get pulled back to the dark side my memory of the other side can hopefully keep my stay there shorter and the strength and motivation to get back to it stronger.

You Are Worthy

First off let me start off by apologizing because I made a mistake. I took a hiatus, I didn’t post about it, I just kind of stopped writing here. I can give you all the reasons that this happened but it doesn’t matter what the reasons were, I just should have communicated that I wouldn’t be writing for awhile.

I wondered if I would get back to my blog. A part of me wondered if all this time I put into was really worth anything, I don’t get paid for it, I’m not sure if anyone really reads it, and now that I’ve lost my momentum, what’s the point?

See when I make mistakes or when things don’t turn out to be my idea of “successful” I run and hide. I avoid thinking about whatever I was working on because I feel ashamed it didn’t work and I start to distract myself with other things.

But here’s what I’m trying to learn. I am worthy enough to make mistakes. I am worthy enough to keep trying. I am worthy enough to do something I enjoy even if it doesn’t make a difference to anyone. I’m worthy enough simply because I am.

I wonder how many times as mothers we put ourselves down when we make mistakes, dismiss all of our efforts the minute we lose it and yell at our little ones, minimize the importance of our work in the home because it doesn’t bring in money, lather ourselves in guilt when we can’t “have it all.” How much time do we invest into making our children feel worthy while we demean ourselves and place ourselves inferior because of mistakes or judgments from others?

Here’s an important reminder- your worthiness does not lie within motherhood. It’s simply within you. It was there before you child was and there before you had a career. You’re worthy whether or not you pushed out a baby. Whether or not you have a degree. Whether or not you’re pretty, or patient, or penniless. You are worthy even when you yell, even when you feel like you want to get in the car and drive away forever, even when you’re not sure you’re doing your best.  You’re worthiness is within you all the time, it’s up to you to realize it’s there and start owning it

When you recognize your worthiness so many positive things happen. You can –

  • Take responsibility for mistakes without shame
  • Pick yourself up and try again
  • Ask for what you need and want
  • Recognize the difference between a sacrifice of love and being a martyr
  • Demand respect and recognition from others
  • Give the best parts of yourself without fear of failure
  • Realize what is not worth your time, energy, and effort

So when you feel yourself starting to tear yourself down with shame, insecurity, and fear remember- you are worthy, simply because you are. Now start acting like it.

The Mom Who Won’t Stop

In the movement of encouraging moms to realize that they are enough and they do enough I believe myself to be an advocate. I’m tired of all the competition and the pettiness among moms. Whether you stay at home or work you’re accomplishing something. Whether or not you decide to join the PTA doesn’t indicate who you are as mom or establish you as a “better” member of the community. But…

….sometimes I feel like a hypocrite speaking out to moms about this because even though I try to believe I am enough I can never seem to stop. Stop signing up for things. Stop making plans. Stop finding projects. Stop thinking I always need to do more.

I’ve always been the person who signs up for everything. I like my hand to be in many pots at the same time.  A lot of the times I spread myself too thin. Even my past employee evaluations would note that at times I can “bite off more than she can chew.” Sometimes I  come across as the overachiever. While sometimes my overextension habits have lead me to a nervous breakdown or two they have also brought me out of really dark times. And I would be lying if I didn’t say that some of the the time I’m getting involved in too many things for not the right reasons- to please others, to be admired, to increase my self-worth because of the recognition and not because it just made me feel good. But I’ve also come to realize that I’m just that person who can’t stop because I like the pace of a thousand miles per hour. When motherhood came along I went to snail’s pace in life. I wasn’t working and wasn’t sure what to do with my energy. So I started looking for and creating as many opportunities as I could to exert my energy.  In the 2 years since my son was born I started my own parent’s meetup group, ran support groups for new moms, worked a part time job, started a blog, moved across the world, and started an  online mentoring program for moms. I join as many moms groups as I can. I reach out to other moms new to the city I live in now. I find as many programs that my son and I can attend together as I can.

Some might think it’s a problem to be this way. To not be able to slow down and just be present.  I get that and I know that’s something I need to work on. I try to work on the balance while also respecting what is just genuinely me.

But I can’t stop. I won’t stop.

I’ll probably be the mom in the PTA, a den mom in Boy Scouts, managing moms groups and playdates left and right. But please don’t peg me as “that mom.” Because I’m not
“that mom.” I don’t try to control, or judge, or look better than other moms. I just really like connecting to people, giving back, and most importantly, getting this nervous energy out of me. If you’ve got work/life balance down pat or prefer the quieter life I totally respect you. In fact, I’m a little jealous.

I think a lot. I say a lot. I do a lot. But here’s the thing. It’s not to show you up. It’s not to believe I’m better. It’s because I can’t stop. I won’t stop. See I have this belief that looms over me every single day and it says “You’ve only got so much time” So yea I think a lot, I say a lot, I do a lot. But it’s only because I’ve got this one life and I want to say I said a lot, I gave a lot, and I lived a lot.

So I tread on striving to believe that I am enough even if I stop. But I can’t stop. I won’t stop. Because I’ve got so much to do.

Self-Care Mondays #9: Enjoy the Sound of Silence

I’ve always been a person with a mind that races at a million miles a minute. It’s hard for me to stop the plethora of ideas and worries and to-do list items from popping into my mind that motivate me to take immediate action and do something. I put pressure on myself to do something all the time. The thoughts continue to race all the way up to me closing my eyes and I realize that I never get to experience the quiet mind.

And even if you’re not like me we live lives that are full of input. Requests from our children, noise from TV and cell phones, information from articles and Facebook groups, opinions of our families and friends, demands from our daily to-do lists and jobs. Everything’s coming in and if we never have time to sit and sort it out in the silence we can easily feel defeated and overwhelmed.

Silence is not something to always be filled but our society and culture seems to make us believe that. Many people I meet say they feel awkward when there is silence in a conversation. I utilized silence in my therapy sessions with clients often. If they became uncomfortable I encouraged them to take a deep breath and sit with their thoughts before continuing or before I would have my reply. It’s perfectly okay to say to anyone in your life, “Do you mind if it’s quiet for a second, I need some time to think.” This is a profound tool you can use with your children when it comes to discipline. Often if we feel pressure to make a decision and act in the moment we don’t have time to organize our thoughts and feelings and can act rashly or in ways we didn’t intend to.

Silence in itself can be a gift. It’s a gift that is full of time to sit with our thoughts, be with them, and sort through them without having to get up and do something. But we have to do to the work to first create the opportunity for it and then let it be.

So for this post I let myself sit in silence for 5 minutes. I tried to work on mindfulness techniques which I will elaborate later but found myself just wanting to focus on being comfortable with the silence and stillness instead of focusing on my thoughts. You have to be comfortable with the silence and the stillness before you can work on how to really be mindful and meditate. I let myself organize my thoughts and sit with ideas. The one thing I wouldn’t allow myself to do it get up and take action. I had to wait and sit still until those 5 minutes were over. For people like me, this is really really hard. But I was able to form a better action plan for the day, take some time to be gentle with myself about previous judgments, and be inspired for the remainder of the day. I sorted with all that input and feel that things are filed away where they should and I can truly focus on the moment.

So try sitting in silence for 5 minutes each day. Take notice of your thoughts and instincts within those 5 minutes. What did you learn about yourself and your thoughts that you may have not if you were doing something else?

Self-Care Mondays #8: Hey Mama-What Do You Stand For?

I remember in college having a sign I hung in my room that said, “If you don’t stand for something you’ll fall for anything.” I was a passionate girl in college and in many ways I still am. I was ready to fight for what I thought was right and attended various protests for issues I believe in throughout my 4 years there.

Self-Care Mondays #8: Hey Mama-What Do You Stand For?

I’m not sure that moms who don’t stand for something will fall for anything but I do think that if a mom loses touch with her values it’s very easy to fall for our negative thoughts and judgements we place on ourselves. Our personal values are what keep us grounded and focus. They are the platform that keeps us standing on our own two feet and when we lose touch with them things can get shaky.

Personal values come from many places: our upbringing, our environments, our culture, our relationships, past experiences, and our own unique personalities. They are our compasses to help direct our decisions and behaviors. Sometimes when we feel lost or having difficulties we can fall back on our values to guide us. When we feel disheartned about our direction in life our values can be the light at the end of the tunnel. When we feel discouraged by our choices or the way things are going we can again rely on our values to center and ground us.

Reflect on your values inside and outside of motherhood. If you need some examples here is a list:

Fun                             Wealth                     Achievement                  Education                  Faith

Creativity                 Fairness                  Compassion                     Generosity                Adventure

Family                       Community            Health                                Loyalty                     Love

Empathy                  Discipline                 Honesty                           Hard Work             Happiness

Freedom                 Practicality               Exploration                     Patriotism              Balance

Simplicity               Success                    Growth                               Security                 Leadership

Independence          Grace                      Intelligence                        Beauty                   Service

For  your self-care exercise this week write down your top 10 values and then circle your top 3. Ask yourself these questions:

How are you living by your values? In what ways is it difficult to stick to these values?

How do you show your children and close family and friends that these values are important to you?

Do you make decisions everyday based on these values? Do you allow values of less importance take over? Which ones?

Write down 2 things you can do this week to show your commitment to these values.

So mama, what do you stand for? What are you about as a person, woman, and mom? If a value is mportant to you then try to find ways this week to make it priority. Let this be your roadmap to your decisions inside and outside of motherhood. Stand on that platform of strength and proud of who you are and what you’re about. You’ll be a guiding light for yourself and your children.