I’m a true believer that connecting with one another is a central part of our purpose. Being able to relate to others and show support can build a strong and inspirational web to help keep each other confident and empowered .
Making an authentic connection means we are reaching out to another person by presenting our genuine self through sharing thoughts, feelings, or opinions or making attempts to relate to them and open up ourselves for engagement.
How many times are we responding to others or our children without looking them in the eye? How many times do we say, “Good job!” or “That’s nice!” without truly stopping what we are doing to really look at our child in the eye and look at what they want to show us. It is hard for us to slow down and truly take in those moments when we have our minds on something else. But its not just about showing our children respect and considering, we can also find healing in those truly authentic moments if we slow down enough to take advantage of them. This is not me saying, “Slow down moms and pay attention to your kids!” as much as what I am truly trying to say which is, “Look mom! Here’s an opportunity to show care and consideration for yourself and your child at the same time! Slow down and be present because your child will feel good and you will too.”
We can be in relationship with one another but not necessarily feel connected. Even as a mom I have felt disconnected from my son when I let my insecurities take over and rob me of my self-confidence. But I have found the moments I cherish the most about motherhood aren’t when I am necessarily doing something for my son but just listening to him and being present with him.
Take some time to slow down today and just be fully present with someone. Instead of focusing on what you can do for them or how they may be perceiving you just be fully present by listening to them and being authentic in your responses. Eye contact and touch can go a long way. Asking simple questions like “How are you feeling?” or “What are you thinking about?” open up the conversation. Silence can even be healing too. Sometimes we make beautiful connections without saying anything at all. Be present, be you, and be healed by the power of connection.