I remember in college having a sign I hung in my room that said, “If you don’t stand for something you’ll fall for anything.” I was a passionate girl in college and in many ways I still am. I was ready to fight for what I thought was right and attended various protests for issues I believe in throughout my 4 years there.
I’m not sure that moms who don’t stand for something will fall for anything but I do think that if a mom loses touch with her values it’s very easy to fall for our negative thoughts and judgements we place on ourselves. Our personal values are what keep us grounded and focus. They are the platform that keeps us standing on our own two feet and when we lose touch with them things can get shaky.
Personal values come from many places: our upbringing, our environments, our culture, our relationships, past experiences, and our own unique personalities. They are our compasses to help direct our decisions and behaviors. Sometimes when we feel lost or having difficulties we can fall back on our values to guide us. When we feel disheartned about our direction in life our values can be the light at the end of the tunnel. When we feel discouraged by our choices or the way things are going we can again rely on our values to center and ground us.
Reflect on your values inside and outside of motherhood. If you need some examples here is a list:
Fun Wealth Achievement Education Faith
Creativity Fairness Compassion Generosity Adventure
Family Community Health Loyalty Love
Empathy Discipline Honesty Hard Work Happiness
Freedom Practicality Exploration Patriotism Balance
Simplicity Success Growth Security Leadership
Independence Grace Intelligence Beauty Service
For your self-care exercise this week write down your top 10 values and then circle your top 3. Ask yourself these questions:
How are you living by your values? In what ways is it difficult to stick to these values?
How do you show your children and close family and friends that these values are important to you?
Do you make decisions everyday based on these values? Do you allow values of less importance take over? Which ones?
Write down 2 things you can do this week to show your commitment to these values.
So mama, what do you stand for? What are you about as a person, woman, and mom? If a value is mportant to you then try to find ways this week to make it priority. Let this be your roadmap to your decisions inside and outside of motherhood. Stand on that platform of strength and proud of who you are and what you’re about. You’ll be a guiding light for yourself and your children.